What is Grief?
Grief is an emotional response to loss. It is normal and natural but often leaves behind a broken heart whether your loss is from:
- Divorce or end of a relationship
- Loss of a career
- Loss of trust
- Loss of faith
- Loss of safety
- Loss of health
Working with a Grief Recovery Specialist® in a safe environment gives you time to look at losses affecting your life and your beliefs about dealing with loss including challenging many myths about grief such as:
- Time heals all wounds
- Replace the loss
- Grieve alone
- Be strong for others
- Bury your feelings
People say you have to let go and move on in your life, but they don’t tell you what you need to do to accomplish that. The Grief Recovery Method® not only makes that possible, it also helps you take new actions leading to the completion of the pain attached to those losses.
Only talking about how you feel does not complete the unfinished emotional business that is attached to a loss. The Grief Recovery Method® is designed to guide you through a series of actions to not only verbalize your feelings, but to help you complete the pain associated with those feelings.
What is Trauma?
Trauma is often thought of as an event – a traumatic event. Trauma is actually a wound that can be emotional, physiological, psychological, or spiritual.
Responses to danger are automatic and instinctual. When dangerous events require immediate action, the part of our brain governing instinct kicks in and sends signals to our nervous system to protect us. There is no time to reason. Our defense reaction (fight, flight, freeze) is what keeps us safe in threatening situations.
People who have been traumatized can often be triggered into hyper (fight/flight) or hypo (freeze) arousal states even when there is no immediate threat of danger. Logic and reason exist in other parts of the brain, which we can cannot access when we are in danger. Safety becomes our priority.
Healing from trauma means finding a baseline. The Crisis and Trauma Resource Institute calls this baseline our window of tolerance. This is where we can learn to regulate our nervous system, manage our emotions and access choice/reason in other parts of our brain.
Regulating our nervous system can come with a daily routine that is predictable and by spending more time in our bodies (movement) and less time in our heads (continuous thoughts).
Something as simple as regulated breathing can help us feel grounded in the present. It can lessen anxiety and increase energy, if in a depressive state.