Master of Education (Counselling), Acadia University
Master of Education (Adult Education), Mount Saint Vincent University
Canadian Certified Counsellor, Canadian Counselling & Psychotherapy Association
Registered Counselling Therapist (Candidate), Nova Scotia College of Counselling Therapists
Grief Recovery Specialist, Grief Recovery Institute
Clinical Counselling Hypnotherapist, Daybreak Therapy and Training
Life is loss. Throughout my life, I have learned how to acquire things (career, home, partner), but not how to lose them. At the very least, I did not learn how to work through the grief that accompanied each and every loss. I realized this when I was a graduate student studying adult education; specifically, transformational learning.
We are learning and growing from our life experiences all the time. As I reflected further, I realized that my life experiences included a lot of loss – loss of my dad (through separation then suicide), loss of trust & safety, loss of jobs.
The biggest loss for me came in 2002, when I lost my son Sam in January and my daughter Tess in September. I was at 20-weeks’ pregnant with both when they died. I could not wrap my mind around it. How could this be? We had passed the magic 12-week mark.
Even though I went on to have a baby the following year, I was torn between my sadness for the children I had lost and my joy for the child I had. Our culture does not leave a lot of room for this contradiction. But here I was feeling both sadness and joy – my heart was broken, my heart was full.
What I know for sure: I am not alone.
Every single day people experience loss in some form. I knew from my first counselling class that I was being called to work with people just like me – people trying to manage day-to-day with a broken heart and the multitude of emotions that come with it (e.g. anger, sadness, numbness, anxiety, depression, relief).
My training as a counselling therapist and my professional development in grief recovery and trauma have been instrumental in helping me heal my heart. It’s work. It’s taking one step at a time. I know how to take those steps now and want to share my knowledge with you.
Life is a journey. Let’s walk together for a while.